Let’s be frank. You aren’t as successful as you want.
Hi, I’m Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter. I’m called “The Big Game Hunter,” because I coach people and businesses to, the play the game big, to play their professional, their job, search, their career, their business games big. This is a video about looking at things through different lenses.
I’ll just say that I’m using this time at the close of the year where we start to reflect our year, about the kindness and generosity of others, you start to evaluate your goals and whether we were successful meeting them. So many people set out weight goals, and they didn’t meet them. They set up stop smoking goals, and didn’t meet them. Some people set out sales goals where they will commit to selling X number of dollars and start off really motivated for a while and then come in a little short of objectives.
Often the response to not making goals is to blame management, or the economy or generally blame others. As I think about it kind of reminds me of like the discussion of income inequality in the US where people talk about how the system is gamed, and how people like them don’t stand a chance. It’s not to say that the system isn’t hard or complicated and, yes, some people are advantaged without question. But the smartest people don’t always win financially, and sometimes intelligence hurts–hurts them and their desire to be successful, hurts them in their relationships and such.
So, let me ask you this. If you’re so smart, why aren’t you making more money? If you’re so smart, why aren’t you worth more money? If you’re so smart, why aren’t you happier?
The happier one is probably the more interesting question. Beb cause I think, for many of you, your focus, once you don’t meet certain objectives that were created out of your mind from somewhere, starts to turn into resentment for others and their success.
You complain of their success, their wealth or happiness in the life and fail to pay attention to the effort they made to achieve their success. And yeah, there are people who are members of “the lucky gene club,” who inherited wealth, access to wealth, you know, contacts, relationships, education, safe neighborhoods to grow up in and the like . . . better schools. It caused me to think of a time when I stopped having fun, enjoy working for myself and hiring others. I blamed my partner, I blamed my clients, I blamed everyone other than myself.
I started working for a firm some years ago, and like the people I work with, but found too many instances where I blamed people for not being as successful as I thought I could have been.
So, I’ll simply say, I’m not the son of a Russian oligarch, or Middle Eastern oil sheikh, or the child of a Clinton or an Obama or Bush or Zuckerberg OR Gates. I still don’t harbor resentment for their good fortune, I sometimes wish my path had been easier. But, I pause and think about the things that are in my control where I do have choices and where I’ve made mistakes, I work on correcting what’s in my control. I ask myself, “What’s my part of my lack of success? What can I do differently,” because those things are in my control.
You know, being angry, being resentful . . . it’s like a poison in my system and, I suspect, that is in yours too. I just want to encourage you to change the focus of what you’re paying attention to. It won’t guarantee you make the same as the CEO of the firm. But I think, at the end of the day, you will be happier and it will serve you much better, than having resentment disguised as moral indignation, having a toxin in your system of anger that basically eats at your insides like a poison.
ABOUT JEFF ALTMAN, THE BIG GAME HUNTER
Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter is a coach who worked in recruiting for what seems like one hundred years. He is the head coach for NoBSCoachingAdvice.com. He is the host of “The No BS Coaching Advice Podcast,” and “No BS Job Search Advice.”
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