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It All Starts with Courage | The No BS Coaching Advice Podcast

EP 137 A good book, a good class, the Hall of Fame . . . what more can come together? Drawing. You’ll see.

TRANSCRIPT

 

SEGMENT 1. This is “The No BS Coaching Advice Podcast,” Episode 137. I’m your host, Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter and welcome. I like to spend some time talking with you about different things on Monday morning, as a way of launching the week well. As I’ve said so many times before, I want to help you look at Life, the Universe, and Everything.

 

Today’s show comes from a lot of different places. And I’ll just start by saying that. This weekend, I was reading something from a book called “The Trillion Dollar Coach,” a great little book about a man who coached some of the firm’s that have become big in Silicon Valley, a man named Bill Campbell. There’s so many different points on this and what I want to bring out is courage. That it’s important to look at things and go big, because, the truth is, you’re not going to fall on your face all that often.

 

When you go big, number one, you stretch yourself. Number two, you discover that there’s so much more that you can do and that you’re holding yourself back. So much starts with courage.

 

I remember I did a class when I was in coach training. One of the instructors, a man named Lance Sacretan, spoke about a model that he works with called “The Castle Principles.” It’s an acronym for Courage, Authenticity, Service, Truthfulness, Love and Effectiveness.

 

So often we play small. And the result is, it’s no wonder we feel exhausted. We’re not really working with care. We act like we accept mediocrity instead of going for the gusto. Get out there. Be bigger. Try harder. You’ll grow so much more.

 

SEGMENT 2. I was listening to The TED Interview. It’s a podcast hosted by Chris Anderson, who created TED Talks. He was interviewing Johann HARI, and the podcast is terrific. Let me just back up for a second.

 

Ted Interviews are terrific because there are a deeper dive with some of the TED speakers. And Hari, amongst a whole host of things he spoke about, with regard to depression, spoke about how, in the workplace, people are often depressed and frustrated. The reason is, they have no control over their work. They’re turned into a little more than robots. They have flesh and blood, but what’s expected of them is robotic behavior.

 

Folks, if you’re in a situation like this, get that hell out. You know,  you may talk about work-life balance, and that you like this because you go home at five but you spend so much time at work and there’s no balance to it.

 

When you think about it, you’re home, let’s say, you have a one hour commute each way, from eight to six plus the prep time in the morning, you know, let’s say seven to 6. 11 hours of your waking hours, you’re involved in some aspect of work or getting to work. The rest of the time is what you would call the balance. It isn’t balanced. As such, the way to achieve the balance is doing something that you care about doing, something that matters where you have a degree of autonomy over your work.

 

Do you really want to get micromanage? Do you really want to be the modern clerk Bob Cratchit working for the Scrooge on Christmas Eve because that’s what a lot of you are really doing. You’re working for Scrooge on Christmas Eve. He’s demanding so much of you, so much more.

 

And don’t get me wrong. I love effort, as you’ll hear in the next segment. But there’s a certain type of effort, there’s a certain demand to the effort that makes all the difference in the world. Don’t be a clerk. Don’t turn into Bob Cratchit.

 

SEGMENT 3.  This weekend, the Pro Football Hall of Fame inducted new members into the fraternity of great football players. And one by one, black or white, young or old, they were paraded up in front of a microphone next to a bust of how they would appear in Canton, Ohio at the Pro Football Hall of Fame.

 

One by one each man stood there crying. He had reached this Pinnacle in his career, and was reflecting back on how he wound up being there. It started off with someone who loved him. Someone who cared about him and push him hard. It could have been a parent. It was a grandparent for one of the men . . . actually both grandparents, who were there and loved him and pushed him.

 

Yet, there’s a difference between being an eight year old boy playing in the backyard or in a small neighborhood football game and someone who goes on to The Hall of Fame. Along the way, each of these men got what I call “the tap on on the shoulder” of an older man, seeing them and encouraging them and pushing them to greatness.

 

I want to be clear, pushing, as one of them said, wasn’t about the kind of verbal abuse that so many of our boys experience, so many of our girls experience. It was about the push, the demand, with a heart to, as one of them said, It was amazing to hear him refer to him as “one our boys,” and do it not in a denigrating way, but in a way that show that the coach loved him.

 

By the time he made it to the pros, he understood that hard work was a big differentiator and that he needed to understand the plays. But you also needed to work harder because there were people working to take away their candy, if you know what I mean. None of them use that phrase but, fundamentally, that’s what it was. There was always someone there to take their job or beat them on the play.

 

Folks, how hard are you working? Seriously, how much effort are you really putting in? Are you going through the motions? I’m not talking about time, I’m talking about practice, preparation, real effort, because that seems to be a big part of The Hall of Fame difference is working on the plays to make sure that you’ll reach perfection, working on the mental aspects on it.

 

So good enough, isn’t? What are you really doing? Be honest with yourself.

 

SEGMENT 4. So I want you to go and take out what I’ll nickname with a touch of humor to it, an antique iPad, . . . you know, a few sheets of paper. And I’d like you to draw what your work should look like, what you dream of how your work should be? What are you doing? What kind of work do you do? Who’s around you? What kind of place you’re working at. Take some time with this. Don’t try words. I just want you to slow yourself down a little bit and do a little bit of drawing. It doesn’t have to be with crayons (Although if you have access to them, that would be great). Pen, paper, whatever it is. Pencil. Okay, you can use your iPad and just draw it. Draw yourself at your work and what you’re doing. Not today, but what you want it to be.

 

And when you’re done, I want you to go to another piece of paper and draw what it’s like to be at home. What everyone’s doing. The smile on their face, the joy, are you sitting around a table or are you watching a screen. Whatever it is.

 

What do you guys doing? And once you’ve taken the time to do that,  now, on the top put, “My Perfect Job.” On the next sheet of paper,  My Perfect Home Life.  Remember these. Put them away somewhere. Always remember what this was.

 

The next thing I want you to do is take an action toward making the work life possible. It may involve researching a new career. Same thing with your home life. A small change that you might try to make. Don’t force it on other people. Talk with your wife, husband or partner about how the two of you can cooperatively redesign your life at home. Same thing in the workplace. We’re talking about redesigning your life in accord with the drawing.

 

Now you may find that the work life may be hard. But, so what. Take a step. And it’s time to start doing research. You see, most people have the idea but take no action. I want you to start taking actions to make change. It really does start with courage and involves being authentic with yourself and honest with yourself in a really deep way because it’s hard to provide the best of yourself when you’re lying to yourself.

 

It’s time, folks. It is time.

 

ABOUT JEFF ALTMAN, THE BIG GAME HUNTER

Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter is a coach who worked in recruiting for what seems like one hundred years. He is the head coach for NoBSCoachingAdvice.com. He is the host of “The No BS Coaching Advice Podcast,” and “No BS Job Search Advice.”

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